Gay Relationship Coach for Men Tired of Toxic Dating Patterns

I'm Lonay, a certified coach. I help men stop attracting emotionally unavailable partners, heal the root of their patterns, and finally feel safe and chosen in love.

Embrace Love Again - Healing for Gay Men & LGBTQ+ Relationships

My signature program blends RTT®, mindfulness, and coaching to help you break free from old patterns, rebuild self-worth, and thrive in love.

Radiant Hearts Transformation founder Lonay Halloum smiling – gay relationship coach portrait

As Featured In Leading LGBTQ+ Media

Toronto Sun, Well Beings News, and leading podcasts.

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Does Your Love Life Feel Like an Emotional Rollercoaster?

  • You keep attracting emotionally unavailable men.

  • You’re scared to leave the wrong relationship and ending up alone forever.

  • You feel “too much” or “not enough” in love.

  • You’re exhausted from chasing connections that never feels safe.

man sitting with a sad, emotionally exhausted expression.
A man trapped inside a big jar of glass.

It’s Not Just “Bad Luck in Love”, It’s Deep, Learned Patterns We Carry

Many of us grew up with:

🟡Conditional love or rejection from family, religion, or culture

🟡Hiding parts of ourselves to stay safe

🟡Early experiences of shame, secrecy, or being “too much”

Those experiences don’t just disappear. They often turn into subconscious beliefs like:

“Love isn’t safe.”

“I’m not enough.”

“If I’m fully myself, I’ll be abandoned.”

So your nervous system and subconscious mind keep pulling you toward what’s familiar: emotional unavailability, chaos, or partners who can’t really meet you.

Gay Relationship Coaching That Works at the Subconscious Level

My work combines Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT®), mindfulness, and coaching.

In our work together, we will:

  • Identify the core patterns that keep repeating in your love life.

  • Go back to the root scenes and beliefs that created them.

  • Use RTT® and hypnotherapy to release old emotional imprints and rewire your subconscious beliefs about love, safety, and worthiness.

  • Practice new ways of relating to yourself and others, so you can actually feel safe and grounded in love—not just understand it intellectually.

This isn’t generic life coaching. It’s a coaching program designed for men who are ready to stop repeating the same story and create something different.

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Imagine a Relationship Where You Feel Loved, Chosen, and Safe

🟡No more obsessing over texts.

🟡Feeling secure whether you’re single or partnered.

🟡Attracted to emotionally available men.

🟡Confident in handling conflict without losing yourself.

A healthy relationship isn’t about perfection. It’s about feeling grounded, respected, and safe—even when life gets messy.

That’s our goal together.

Is This Gay Relationship Coaching for You?

You’re a gay man (or queer man) struggling with love.

Tired of repeating painful patterns.

Open to subconscious work (RTT®, hypnotherapy)

Want a safe, LGBTQ+ affirming space

willing to be honest about where you are. (no need to have it all figured out)

Not Ready for Coaching Yet? Start with a Free Guide

5 Steps Gay Men Can Take to Stop Attracting Emotionally Unavailable Men

- Understand your patterns

- Spot early red flags

- Begin shifting from within

Lonay Halloum

Why I Care So Deeply About Gay Men and Love

My journey through self-acceptance and toxic patterns fuels my passion to help other men heal and find healthy love.

Therapy and deep inner work changed everything for me. Now I help others:

- Understand where their patterns come from

- Heal the shame and fear underneath

- Build a relationship with themselves that makes healthy love possible

Read My Full Story →

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Rapid Transformational Therapy Practitioner certificate.
Certified Hypnotherapist certificate.

What Clients Say

“To anyone considering working with this very talented man - I first heard Lonay on a podcast I frequently listen to and was caught by his depth of knowledge about gay relationships. He truly knows his way thru this often messy space. When I reached out to him to find out about the details of his program, I was surprised by the amount of time he sets aside for the sessions with his clients. You truly feel like you’re his only client and have access to all of his talent. His program is very detailed and very specific to your situation and needs. He holds you accountable each week and there's homework between sessions to help keep you on track. I came into this from a very difficult situation of a broken marriage with significant betrayal and heartbreak. I was so afraid to be alone that I just let myself be a doormat, afraid to speak my truth for fear of being alone. With Lonay’s coaching and deep dives into lifelong patterns, I was able to find my voice. With my voice came courage and the resounding truth that “I Am Enough”. This has been a life changing experience. I left the broken relationship and with each day I’m more comfortable being just me. Ive relocated to a new city and have been meeting new friends. Each day gets better than before. I now look forward to being just me in my own space. New friends are wanting to introduce me to single guys. While I’m not quite ready to start dating again, that day is getting closer. I feel like I’m in a much better space to show up as a genuinely loving partner with the comfort and knowledge I’m gaining in learning to love myself. If you’re stuck in a relationship that isn’t working for you, you need to work with this man. Whether you can work thru the issues in your relationship and come out the other side in a much better place or if leaving because its too far gone to save, you will find your voice and be able to figure out the best path of your long term happiness. I am truly grateful beyond words for having crossed paths with this beautiful soul.”
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- Rickey D., Columbus, Ohio

“Lonay’s methods unlocked something deep inside of me. I explored topics I had spoken about ad nauseam with other providers, but approaching them through an alternative method was incredibly healing. I now have a remarkably evolved relationship with my inner child.”
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- John W.

“My experience with Lonay to date has been life changing for me, his ability to connect, his patience and openness have encouraged me to reach places within myself that I hadn’t accessed before in my search for inner healing of the wounded child and as a same sex attracted man from the start of life. This long journey has brought me to a place of peace where I can now allow the healing to flow. I am inspired by this young man and his ability to convey important deep connection with his personalised meditations, which have helped reprogram the parts of my subconscious most in need of healing. I can only say from my experience, Lonay is an excellent coach in this field, thank you Lonay. P.S. Lonay is very generous with his time and effort too... My introduction to Lonay was through an interview with Matt Landsiedel on ‘gay men's brotherhood’ podcast earlier this summer which lead me to inquire of his services.”
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- Aiden C., UK

Accreditations

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Ready to Stop Repeating the Same Story?

If you’re done with toxic patterns and emotional rollercoasters, let’s talk.

No pressure, no hard sell. Just a conversation about where you are, what you want, and whether this is the right fit for you.