I'm Lonay, a certified coach. I help men stop attracting emotionally unavailable partners, heal the root of their patterns, and finally feel safe and chosen in love.
My signature program blends RTT®, mindfulness, and coaching to help you break free from old patterns, rebuild self-worth, and thrive in love.

Toronto Sun, Well Beings News, and leading podcasts.
You keep attracting emotionally unavailable men.
You’re scared to leave the wrong relationship and ending up alone forever.
You feel “too much” or “not enough” in love.
You’re exhausted from chasing connections that never feels safe.


Many of us grew up with:
🟡Conditional love or rejection from family, religion, or culture
🟡Hiding parts of ourselves to stay safe
🟡Early experiences of shame, secrecy, or being “too much”
Those experiences don’t just disappear. They often turn into subconscious beliefs like:
“Love isn’t safe.”
“I’m not enough.”
“If I’m fully myself, I’ll be abandoned.”
So your nervous system and subconscious mind keep pulling you toward what’s familiar: emotional unavailability, chaos, or partners who can’t really meet you.
My work combines Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT®), mindfulness, and coaching.
In our work together, we will:
Identify the core patterns that keep repeating in your love life.
Go back to the root scenes and beliefs that created them.
Use RTT® and hypnotherapy to release old emotional imprints and rewire your subconscious beliefs about love, safety, and worthiness.
Practice new ways of relating to yourself and others, so you can actually feel safe and grounded in love—not just understand it intellectually.
This isn’t generic life coaching. It’s a coaching program designed for men who are ready to stop repeating the same story and create something different.



🟡No more obsessing over texts.
🟡Feeling secure whether you’re single or partnered.
🟡Attracted to emotionally available men.
🟡Confident in handling conflict without losing yourself.
A healthy relationship isn’t about perfection. It’s about feeling grounded, respected, and safe—even when life gets messy.
That’s our goal together.
5 Steps Gay Men Can Take to Stop Attracting Emotionally Unavailable Men
- Understand your patterns
- Spot early red flags
- Begin shifting from within

My journey through self-acceptance and toxic patterns fuels my passion to help other men heal and find healthy love.
Therapy and deep inner work changed everything for me. Now I help others:
- Understand where their patterns come from
- Heal the shame and fear underneath
- Build a relationship with themselves that makes healthy love possible


- Rickey D., Columbus, Ohio
- John W.
- Aiden C., UK
No pressure, no hard sell. Just a conversation about where you are, what you want, and whether this is the right fit for you.